Okay, so I've not posted in these types of comms for about a year (maybe longer), but things on my f-list are kinda quieting down a lot and I'm getting kinda antsy for some new friends. So, here goes.
~>I'm 39. I'll be 40 in October. Not sure how I feel about this, but it is what it is. It's inevitable. :)
~>I'm engaged to a man I've known since High School. We dated back in HS, but we were forced to break up due to our age difference (really it's not as bad as it sounds, he's only two years older than I am, but my Mom's now ex-husband was a total douche-canoe about things). We lost contact after he graduated, he went on to his military career, I went on to other things. We reconnected in 2008, got back together in 2012. This December will be three years since we've been back together, happily so. We got engaged last October, and have set our wedding date for September of 2017. Partially b/c of funds, but partially because we really want to get to know each other well before we tie the proverbial knot.
~>I have three children, two of which are angels in Heaven now. I do talk about my kids from time to time. My youngest is still alive, but she does not live with me (my choice). Long story.
~>My fiance's real name is not mentioned on my LJ. I call him “Gimli,” because I'm a nerd. Points if you get the reference. :P
~>I work from home, so I'm on LJ pretty frequently, either babbling about my day or ranting about something someone said to me (which is rare with my job). I do have a wide variety of topics I do write about, some are rants, some are funny, some are just random babblings and silliness in my life.
~>I'm an avid reader, I've set myself a goal to read 50 books in 2015. I'm 11 behind schedule (according to Goodreads), but that's alright, I've still got a good 4 months and 27 days to go. :) I'll read just about anything, but I love true crime and fantasy. Right now, I'm reading a book called Jarhead. You might've seen the movie. The book is way better. Trust me.
~>I suffer from mental illness (bipolar, insomnia, depression, anxiety, ptsd), but I don't let it get in my way. I hope to one day go back to school to major in Linguistics and minor in ASL.
~>I'm fairly blunt and direct. I hate having to question where I stand with people, so I make it a point to never have someone have to question where they stand with me. If I like you, you'll know, and if I don't, you'll know. Because I'll tell you, and I'll tell you why. :)
~>I'm fiercely loyal, but if I say I'm done with someone, that's permanent. I cut them out of my life for good. I don't tolerate a shred of crap from anyone. I've been abused all my life, I'm not a fucking doormat and I refuse to allow myself to be such anymore. Respect me, I'll respect you right back. It's that simple.
~>I love all types of music, but I think my favourites are Country and Metal. :)
~>You should know that my f-list has been on lock-down since 7 October last year. For....reasons. I had two people I thought were my friends turn on me like rabid dogs, and it hurt, but I had to shut them out for good. The safest way for me to do that was to lock everything I say down after that incident happened, so what's said on my lj, STAYS on my lj.
~>I have three amazing pets. A Dachshund called Emily, she's almost 5, a Maine Coon called Patrick, he's 3, and a domestic shorthair called Connor-Murphy, he's just over a year old. :) They are wonderful creatures, and I feel so blessed to have them in my life.
~>I do believe in God, but I am in no way, shape, form, or fashion a Bible thumper. I respect your beliefs, I will not shove mine down your throat. We can agree to disagree. I'm friends with all sorts of people. I don't care what you believe in, as long as you're a good person, you're okay in my book. :) I do support gay rights (I'm bisexual, so...yeah.). I do not support any specific political party. I do not agree with a lot of what the President is doing, but I keep my mouth shut most of the time, unless there's something that really grabs my attention and I feel I must say something, but I do not attack others who disagree with me.
~>I hope one day to learn how to belly dance like Mandanah. :) Look her up on YouTube. She's amazing.
Okay, so now that you know me, I should tell you what I am looking for in friends, right, so here goes.
~>I want someone who is honest, kind, respectful. Like I said, we don't have to be of the same religious path, but at least respect each other's beliefs. :)
~>Someone who has not only a decent command of the English language, but someone who can form a proper sentence (with proper grammar, spelling, someone who doesn't talk lyk dis all dah tym, or TyPe LiKe ThIs. Painful).
~>I like someone who's interesting. Someone I can hold a conversation with about stuff. Doesn't matter the topic, but it would be nice to be able to communicate back and forth. Like I said, conversation. :)
~>You should know if you practice a different religion than I do, while that's fine, I'm going to likely have a zillion and nine questions for you about it. This is not me trying to be mean and bash you, this is not me being one to try to make you question why you believe what you do, but this is me trying to understand where you're coming from and trying to understand what your beliefs are, so if the subject does come up, I know what you're talking about. :) I love, love, LOVE to learn, so I tend to ask a bunch of questions, b/c I am a curious person. :)
~>MUST have a good sense of humour. I CANNOT stress this enough. I love to laugh. I think there's not enough laughter anymore in the world, and I think that's where a lot of the stress is stemming from that we all have, b/c we're not allowing ourselves to find the humour in everyday situations.
~>I do not want to just read fanfic on your blog. I want to know you, as a person. Not your ability to spin a yarn. I've got well over 7,000 books on my Nook (thanks to an SD card in there), and there's plenty of books for me to read that are paper on shelves in this apartment, and there's a library about 5 miles away, so if I want to read a story, I don't have far to look. Seriously. I do not want to read your tales, I want to read about your life.
That's really about it. If you're interested, let's talk. :)